“A lot of childhood is crisis mode,” she explains on the latest episode of Switched on Pop, which you can hear below. Illustration: Iris Gottlieb

“I think a lot of childhood is crisis mode — and if it’s not crisis mode, its autopilot.”—Lucy Dacus

Growing up is never easy, but you wouldn’t always know that from pop music. Songs Discussed In This Episode

➼ Lucy Dacus, “Night Shift”➼ Frank Zappa, “Sharleena”➼ boygenius, “Souvenir”➼ Lukas Graham, “7 Years”➼ Kendrick Lamar, “Beyoncé”➼ Justin Bieber, “Baby”➼ Mandy Moore, “Fifteen”➼ Hilary Duff, “Sweet Sixteen”➼ The Beatles, “When I’m Sixty Four”➼ ABBA, “Dancing Queen”➼ Sound of Music, “Sixteen Going On Seventeen”➼ Avril Lavigne, “17”➼ Kings Of Leon, “17”➼ Lake Street Dive, “Seventeen”➼ Sharon Van Etten, “Seventeen”➼ Alessia Cara, “Seventeen”➼ Stevie Nicks, “Edge of Seventeen”➼ Janis Ian, “At Seventeen”

Lucy Dacus remembers the uncomfortable moments. On the lighter side, the album opens up with “Hot and Heavy,” which takes us back to the scene of an early romantic encounter on a basement sofa, red-faced and awkward. “You get pushed around by the world and the rules that are set for you.” Her songs examine unequal power relationships between parents and friends and lovers. Dacus says that writing about those years is “a process of exerting control over things that I didn’t have control over at the time.” With untethered teenage dreams safely behind her, Dacus now gets to reclaim the meaning of youth: “I am the narrator of my own life, so I get to say what this meant.”

Tags: On her new album Home Video, she talks about youthful growing pains. Songs about adolescence too often gloss over the complicated moments. But by the next song, “Christine,” the amorous feelings fade: “He can be nice, sometimes / Other nights, you admit he’s not what you had in mind.” Bad dads, bible camp indoctrination, and perpetual peer pressure all take the stage in Dacus’s coming-of-age album. The “teenage dream” archetype is a pop-culture fantasy — and no one really wants to be 17 forever.